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As the day is coming to an end I’ve decided to write
something as well.
We have two celebrations in islam, one at the end of
Ramadhan and the second one as a remembrance of Abraham’s (peace be upon him)
sacrifice. The rest of celebrations are considered non-muslim and we should not
celebrate them in any way.
Therefore Valentine’s Day is off as well as Halloween, Easter,
Christmas, Women’s Day, Grandma’s Day, Mother’s Day, Auntie’s Day...
Christians who follow the Bible should not celebrate it
either. It is an artificial holiday with its roots in paganism and if it comes
to Saint Valentine, he is a patron saint of mentally ill people and people with
epilepsy and not of people in love (that was ascribed to him later).
Does it mean that if we miss this celebration we are poor,
disadvantaged and you should be sorry for us?
No, not at all, we are fine :)
Excluding Valentine’s Day’s origins, as I
mentioned before it is an artificial holiday.
I remember that in my childhood, in the 90-ties, it
was just being introduced in Poland. I remember it was something new, American
of course, so it must have been “cool” and probably that’s why it was adapted
rather quickly.
The previous generations had managed to live without it and they
were still able to show love to one another every day. Men used to give flowers-surprises
to their women or gifts without any occasion.
Now the date was established for these flowers and gifts.
And you don’t need to buy them throughout the year as long as you don’t forget
to buy them on the 14th . Someone has set up a date as if he ordered
the couples to remember about each other and to do something nice for each
other on this particular day.
During this period shops are dripping of red, the goods of
this colour ask, beg, scream “buy me!” And people do buy, because it doesn’t
look right not to give something on this occasion, it would mean that... you
don’t love enough?!
It also doesn’t look right if you don’t receive anything. It
means that... you are not loved?...
I’d never been particularly popular in school, an average
(ma sha allah, Alhamdulillah). I remember how sad it was not to get a stupid
Valentine’s Day card when other girls got a few. How many disadvantaged girls
and boys are there every year? Any of you who haven't received a Valentine’s
Day card at least once knows what it feels like for a young person. A lot of these lonely on
that day persons are not even ugly or stupid and this set up date contributes
to their sadness, low self esteem and loss of self-confidence.
From my observation I can tell that many people feel the
pressure on that day, they feel that they are being forced to do something so
they rebel entirely and don’t celebrate it, others rebel in their hearts but
they let themselves being carried away by the pressure and they will but a
card, roses, gifts, they will go to a restaurant or to some romantic place.
Can’t it be done on another day? Will it be less romantic if
it is spontaneous and doesn’t have this “special” romantic-like date?
Sincerity and spontaneity are the characteristics of a true
love. Receiving a gift or flowers without a specific date, totally unexpectedly,
makes us feel truly loved and special.
14th of February we need to and it’s not right not to. And a true love
doesn’t need a date. A true feeling
cannot wait for a special day because it is here and now and doesn’t come only
once a year. A true feeling is able to make any other day special. A
dozen roses can be given not only in February. A card with warm words can be
handed in in July. A romantic dinner with candles or in a restaurant can be
eaten in October. A weekend in Paris can be spent in May when it is warm and
pleasant and when days are longer (this is for you Karolinka :* lucky you with
this Paris anyway)
Let’s love sincerely and truly!
Let’s remember about spontaneous gifts and romantic dates
(in marriage of course) during the whole year!
Let’s boycott the artificial Valentine’s Day!
* * *
“Exchange gifts, as that
will lead to increasing your love to one another.” – Prophet Muhammad – [Al-Bukhari]
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